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Proverbs 18:22 – “The man who finds a wife finds a treasure and receives favor from the Lord.”  The Bible refers to our wives as treasure.

Today, I want to talk to men.  In Scripture, a wife is referred to as a treasure or a good thing.  So when a man finds a woman, the Bible says, that is a blessed moment by God.  Matter a fact; this verse reads, “God favors the man.”  So if you have a wife or if you one day find a wife, men you have found a God given treasure.

So here is the big question of the day; men how are you handling the treasure God has placed in your possession?  Are you valuing her, respecting her, and cherishing her?  I know for me I often need a reminder from God as to how I am to treat my wife.  Peter, a tough fisherman, gives us clear teaching on how we are to value the treasure God has given us known as a wife.

1 Peter 3:7 (NLT) “…You husbands must give honor to your wives. Treat her with understanding as you live together. She may be weaker than you are, but she is your equal partner in God’s gift of new life. If you don’t treat her as you should, your prayers will not be heard.”

What do you do to value the treasure know as your wife?

  • Honor your wife.
  • Treat your wife with understanding.
  • Make your wife an equal partner.

Men, God has shown you favor if you have a wife.  Go home and love her as Christ loved the church.

First time situations are fun!

video-6-00m-06sYesterday, my youngest daughter took here first bite.  We all gathered around as a family and watched to see exactly what kind of face she would make, weather she would spit it right up or swallow it down, and finally to celebrate progress.  Whether we realize it or not, first time situations are fun.  God made us to experience newness every day.  2 Corinthians 5:17 says “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has gone, the new has come!” Today are you experiencing new things for the first time?  If not, why?

The best picture

Last week Julie and I were sitting in our study doing the bills when our little girl climbed into the trash can. I just had to share this picture with you. It is amazing. Let me know what you think…

Here we go again…

Today I got to go see the heartbeat of our second child.  Yes that is right Julie is pregnant and I am going to be a dad again.  Julie and I are excited.  Here is a sneak peak…

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Now for the fun part, deciding a name.  We think we have one if it is a girl.  I have one if it is a boy, but Julie is not that into it.  So any suggestions?  (Be Kind)

Elli being Funny.

Hope this makes you smile.

Elli Snow Suit

Lost is back!!!

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My wife and I are re-watching season 3 of Lost in preparation for the premier this Thursday.  We have a lost party with a few friends.  In honor of Lost and Hawaii Julie has bought a coconut for the premier.  We are excited.  Are you excited?

Speaking of Hawaii, Julie and I got to go a few weeks ago, here are a couple of pictures…

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Hawaii fish

There are many stories to share; luau, beaches, whale tours, and sunrises, but one of my favorite memories are of the fish I caught above.  The first fish I caught was a 45 lb Stripped Marlin, then a 25 lb Tuna, and finally on the way in I caught a Mahi-Mahi which in Hawaiian means “strong-strong.”  After catching one of these I understand why they call it Mahi-Mahi.  It was a day I will never forget. 

9 years

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December 12th Julie and I celebrated 9 years of marriage.  It feels like just yesterday I saw her beautiful smile in the front lobby of the church.  God brought this amazing woman right to me as I was busy hanging out with teenagers.  I will never forget the kindness in her words and the gentleness she displayed so naturally.  Very few people have the ability to show care so freely.  Julie is a constant reminder to me of how Good God is.  I wish everyone could know how smart and sensitive my wife really is.  Many times because of her compassion and consideration she gives to others, people mistake who she really is as a person.  This is just like Jesus.  Jesus so often remained silent is situations, not because he did not know the truth or because he could not prove his point, but because he was meek.  All the rulers and those in power did not get Jesus and ultimately they killed him.  But he loved them.  My wife is meek, not weak.  She has so much strength and she holds it under control.  Many do not get her, but I do.  She is an amazing picture of Jesus.  Most of the time she does not even see it, but someday God will reward her for it. 

As I was thinking about our nine years together, God brought to mind the fruit of the Spirit; “love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, gentleness, meekness, and self-control.”  Julie clearly displays these each day in our marriage and in life.  Thank God He gave me such a precious wife.  I look forward to spending the rest of my days trying to honor this bride God gave me.

Where Is Tommy?

I know it has been a month since my last post.  Life has been crazy.  During the last part of October and the beginning of November I was invited by a friend to take my family to Disney world.  It was a blast, but it was also very tiring.  We went to all the parks except for that one called “Blizzard Beach.”  (I just am not into Speedos and water slides.  The hotel pool is sufficient.)  Anyhow, Disney is amazing.  The work and care they put into each experience is above and beyond.  Their focus on each age is tremendous.  And there is nothing like fighting through thousands of parents and strollers to be the first one to see Mickey or Goofy.  Truly this vacation will be one I will cherish for a long time to come. 

After getting back from Disney, I worked for a couple of week and then it was Thanksgiving for others, but for me, it was surgery.  I spent all of last week doped up with pain meds and trying to sleep my way back into feeling good.  The surgery went well and the doctors are amazed at how quickly I am healing.  Yet I still have months of rehabilitation and healing to go.  During this time of pain, I have to say, my wife Julie is amazing.  She took care of everything without complaining or getting frustrated.  Julie, you are a great mom and nurse!  And also I must say thanks to others that helped out as well.  Stephanie and Luke thanks for the chair.  Ben, thanks for the food and encouragement.  Clint and Mel, great lasagna!  And all the rest of you who prayed and just check on me, it meant a lot, Thanks.

Well, sorry this is a short update; I just wanted to get back on the road of writing.  Hopefully I will tell you more stories and show you some pics as well in the days to come.  I am glad I am back. 

Boomer Soooner…

What can you say; the Sooner’s are loaded once again this year.  As I watch the game yesterday I was amazed at how year after year regardless of the challenges and obstacles, Bob Stoops finds a way to win.  It does not matter if he loses a super star like Adrian Petterson or has to start a young guy like Sam Bradford, Stoops is committed to team work and winning. 

The church could learn a lot about winning from the OU Sooners.  Each week every church has a chance to win people to Jesus.  Every church faces incredible obstacles, whether it is financial, lack of volunteers, or just plain old PR.  Those things may help you win, but they are not required to win.  We serve God and I think he has enough power to handle anything.  So what is the problem, why do we not win more in the local church?  Here are a few things that come to mind.

1. We do not believe God can do anything. Instead of looking to Him and believing that His power is enough, instead we look at the obstacles. Lack of funds, lack of people, or not the right location. If God is going to cause our church to win, it is going to be based on His power, not all the others stuff. When we focus on Him, He will lead us to the right resources. Ephesians 3:20 says “Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us…” The key is the power we allow to work in us.

2. We do not prepare like we should. Winning on the football field and winning in the church begins with preparation. Often times we wing it in church instead of sitting down and mapping out a plan and then executing that plan. Other times we just repeat the same stuff over and over instead of praying, creating, and dreaming big. Proverbs 21:5 says Careful planning puts you ahead in the long run; hurry and scurry puts you further behind.” We must sit down and plan our services in order to win on Sunday’s.

3. We do not work together. When you are on a great football team, everybody knows their position and what is expected when the ball is snapped. The only time you have problems is when someone wants to do their own thing. In churches we allow opinion, preferences, and our own personal idea of what God wants to overtake the big picture. Every weekend we should focus on the big picture and then align everyone to work toward that objective. 1 Corinthians 12:18-20 says “But in fact God has arranged the parts in the body, every one of them, just as he wanted them to be. If they were all one part, where would the body be? As it is, there are many parts, but one body.” The key to winning is getting everybody to do their part as one body. One body with one focus; winning people to Jesus.

4. We do not like pain. Yes I said pain. One thing you will notice in football is that players want to play regardless of the pain involved. They are willing to sacrifice their body so that the team will win. Often times in church, we just are not willing to face a little pain in order to win the game. Instead of sacrificing our wallets or our comforts or our time, we look for the easiest route. Progress creates pain. It is a pain to create new stuff instead of just doing what you did last year. It is a pain to replace leaders who are not doing their job. It is a pain to ask people to give more dollars so the Kingdom can advance instead of their house, cars, or bellies. It is a pain to face criticism for doing something on the edge instead of playing it safe. It is a pain when people leave because you did not do it their way. Winning creates pain for those involved and especially for the leaders. Most people in church avoid pain. You cannot win without a little pain. I love what Paul tells his dear friends in Philippians. He says, 1:29 “For it has been granted to you on behalf of Christ not only to believe on him, but also to suffer for him.” Pain is part of winning.

My prayer for these next few months is that the Sooner’s would go all the way to the national championship, but more than the Sooner’s I pray that they church would win like never before.

PS – Yesterday during the game, our Sooner’s had a new cheerleader.  Look at this little angel.

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Friday with Elli

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Today has been awesome.  I spent the whole day with my 18 month old daughter Elli.  We went to a meeting together, then breakfast and lunch.  Afterwards we settled in for some playtime and a book before Elli had a three hour nap.  While she napped, I did some work.  Finally Elli woke up and we hung out in the front room and then had some dinner together.  As I write these words, she is talking to the dog and playing with her pig toy. 

Things that I will remember from this day…

  • Elli singing “Jesus Loves me” throughout the day.  Every time I hear her sing those words my heart melts with so much love.  It is a reminder that Jesus really loves us more than we will ever know or understand.
  • Elli wearing sunglasses and carry her book around.  My little girl is flat cool.  She knows how to have style at age 1, watch out for those teenager years down the road.
  • Elli laying her head on my leg and dancing around saying daddy, daddy, daddy.  Only God can move my heart more than the word daddy.  I love being a dad, it is the best.
  • Elli tickling me and then laughing as if I was tickling her.  It amazes me how happy my little girl is in life.  As I watch her smile and laugh it reminds me that this is how God wants me to live.  Life is too short to go through it grumpy, we should smile more and laugh often; even when we blow it.
  • Elli watching people and then smiling at them.  Even at a small age Elli has a love for others that is compelling.  As I watch this in her, I am reminded of how my life should love others.
  • Books, Books, Books.  Elli loves books and wants me to read them to her all the time.  She loves to learn.  We should never lose our love for learning.
  • Finally Elli looking into my eyes and smiling.  She loves me and I love her.  This is what we dads are called to do, show our daughters they are the best in the world and love them like crazy.

Well, now it is time for Elli’s bath, bedtime story, and prayer.  Another day is coming to a close; thank God I got to invest in my baby girl.  Friday with Elli is the best!